PA - Consider the Source

During the course of this case, CPS relied heavily on the testimony of Ken Shaw to repeatedly inflict personal attacks on the mother.

And Ken Shaw was more than happy to comply. After all, he had over the years developed an irrational hatred of the mother because of her refusal to maintain a relationship with him after she realized that he was a habitual liar, with substance abuse and anger issues.

The man had even told his own parents that she lived somewhere in Canada when he first introduced her to them.

Ken Shaw, at the urging and instigation of his attorney, has continued those attacks to this day, including attempting to throw false allegations out in the chat session of a radio interview conducted with the mother on Friday night. (See the "Here We Go Again" blog entry - episode 3 for details.) It is interesting that although he (or his cohorts) could have called in to the show and had their attempts broadcast live, they realized that their voices would be on air and possibly subject to further action (similar to episode 1).

Meanwhile, for those of you who aren't sure what to believe, maybe the following documentation will help you.

At one of the numerous hearings that was held in approximately April or May of 2013, the Judge ordered that the mother be allowed to bring a third party supervisor IN ADDITION TO her middle daughter when she had visits with her youngest daughter. Both Ken Shaw, and his wife, and his attorney were present at that hearing and heard the order from the judge. They actually objected to the idea and were overruled on the matter, so they were very aware of the judge's ruling and order.

At the very next visitation, Ken and Mary dragged the child out by her wrist and screamed and yelled at the mother, telling the mother that she was not allowed to bring anyone else with her at all.

This was an email sent by Ken Shaw to the mother:

Which demonstrates that he apparently was refusing to listen to and follow direct orders from the judge. After the mother sent him a copy of the court order permitting a third party in addition to herself and her other daughter, his wife Mary sent this fax to CPS (she had also been present in court when the judge issued the order):

It is obvious that either the two of them were gaming the system and pretending ignorance and stupidity, or...they aren't pretending...

This might explain part of the problem. In addition to Ken Shaw admitting that he himself regularly takes lorazepam and other medications for his alleged anxiety at a hearing in February 2014, he disclosed this information about his wife:

However apparently "long-standing mental health issues" that require three different medications are not "psychiatric". 

There is a similar personal admission by his son on social media documenting that he has "long standing mental health issues" in which he apologizes for "hurting anyone". (Although I would attribute the son's problems to the PA that Ken Shaw inflicted on both his sons in regards to his ex-wife.)

In the January hearing, under sworn oath, Ken Shaw gave this testimony:

He uses semantics to try to deny that he lied to the police. In fact, his testimony in front of two separate judges was that the child had told his mother that the dog had scratched her. He also testified that after he "suggested" that it was from the mother (without even seeing it), both of his mother and his daughter changed their story (although his mother, repeatedly cited as a source by Ken Shaw has NEVER appeared to testify).

This is his testimony from a hearing in this matter in February 2014 regarding the same incident:

Not to state the obvious, but a characteristic of lying is that you are unable to consistently report the same thing over and over again, because it is not grounded in reality and true memories. Ken Shaw demonstrated that less than a month later, he was unable to recall his prior testimony.

Next are two excerpts from his testimony - the testimony of an adult, 50+ year old man, about how he talks to and about young girls.

Neither episode is an appropriate way for a father or an adult male to talk about or treat young females.

what comes next is VERY interesting. In the "Gaslighting" blog entry I talked about Ken Shaw making false reports to the local police. Here is his testimony regarding that incident a year later, after initially claiming that he actually heard Jon Massey's voice because he was on speakerphone:

That last line from Ken was him stating that the youngest daughter heard it, not him. That he heard the mother's voice and that the child allegedly said she heard Jon Massey. This is a big change from his insistence a year prior that he heard Jon Massey himself, not only on that occasion but on others.

Another glaring example is the following testimony - which completely contradicts his subsequent reports:

When Ken Shaw made false allegations against the mother as part of his campaign of Parental Alienation, he repeatedly reported that he witnessed abuse. Yet this piece of testimony under sworn oath directly contradicts his reports.

Now here's where it gets interesting. There is this documentation that at the time he got temporary custody, he was $3K in arrears in child support.

And Ken Shaw's own testimony regarding child support and the fact that he stopped paying after his March 2011 support payment:

But somehow, despite the mother getting no moneys from him for support, Ken Shaw and his wife were able to post this to his Facebook page in March 2012.

Yet Ken Shaw claimed that he had "overpaid" the mother $3K, both in statements to CPS and in a formal notarized petition filed with the court.

Starting to see a pattern here?

Let's finish it up with this final piece of testimony from this oh so reliable source (sarcasm fully intended):

Here we have the testimony of this man who has admitted lying to the police, failing to pay child support, documented perjurer has demonstrated his own motives - a custody grab (and a subsequent filing for child support).

I think this speaks for itself!

Gaslighting

Ken Shaw is a master at gaslighting - however the only people who believed him were those who were less intelligent than him, the DSS attorney and the AFCs.

One of the nastiest stunts he pulled was filing a false report with the local police department, as described below:

Let's start with the obvious - Jon Massey was not at the house and had not been at the house since the onset of this matter when he was served with the orders of protection. Not only was he NOT at the house, at the time in question he was at an appointment with his therapist, and then making the follow-up appointment with the receptionists (yes, plural).

In fact, what should stand out is that while Ken Shaw was calling the police, his wife Mary had already gotten on the computer, logged on to the website for the local police scanner, and had put on headphones to make sure she heard what happened.

I'll add another layer of context for you - Ken and Mary live in another country, approximately three hours away. In order for Mary to even know that there was a police scanner website for our locality, the two of them would have had to research it IN ADVANCE. Just as she was ready IN ADVANCE to listen to what happened as a result of the false police report. That sounds like pure premeditation.

It is odd that when the police actually showed up at the house, neither my daughter nor I were here - I had left to deal with some insurance issues with my son, and my daughter had left to pick up a friend from work.

More to the point, neither of us had EVER told Ken Shaw that Jon was sneaking into the house - what he had been told in August was that Jon was living with his mother over 20 miles away.

As to "Jon's car"? It was actually registered to his mother, and while living with her, then his sister, and finally a friend of ours, he had no need of the car as others were available to him. So his mother had allowed my daughter to use the car to transport herself to the local college and her job, as Jon was no longer available to do so.

In fact, at visitations on at least three occasions prior to the false report, IN FRONT OF Ken and Mary Shaw, my daughter had told her youngest sister about driving the car to and from school and work. Additionally, the caseworkers had seen the car parked IN THE DRIVEWAY OF OUR HOUSE on two home visits they conducted.

But what truly gives this away as completely premeditated was this email from the DSS Attorney to the caseworker - dated 20 DAYS before Ken Shaw's attempt at filing a false police report:

The person who approached the DSS Attorney was Ken Shaw's attorney, obviously setting the stage for the false reports.

Once Ken Shaw was unsuccessful at his initial attempt, the CPS caseworkers jumped right on the ball and directly contacted the head detective at the police department with the following email:

She sent a copy of Ken Shaw's email above, and received the following cc - the head detective contacted the second in command at the police department:

The result was that our house was raided at about 3 am Sunday morning - searched top to bottom by police officers who tracked mud all through the house. And once again, Jon Massey was not there. Why? Because unlike Ken Shaw (who has lied to police by his own admission under oath and by his actions above, has lied to a judge under oath, and who has a long history of being a scofflaw) Jon Massey believed in playing by the rules.

Rules which were violated not only by the DSS Attorney, but also by the ADAs and the judges involved in the Jon Massey case.

Ken Shaw lit a torch that helped lead to an innocent man's death. Playing with fire...

PA - Connect the Dots

At the time of the false allegations against Jon Massey, my youngest daughter was on visitation with her father in Canada (he is a Canadian citizen, we only live 30 minutes from a border crossing).

My daughter was born here in the US, had lived with me her entire life (she was almost eight), and I had been granted full custody by NYS Family Court, a United States court. This was reaffirmed when she was three years old due to some issues that had arisen.

Ken Shaw had only asked for visitation every third weekend, two weeks during the summer, and half of her Christmas vacation (beginning on Boxing Day - December 26th), and recently he had dropped off even some of his summer visitation time on weekends - despite the fact that he repeatedly claimed that he wanted her more and that I was keeping him from having her more. We have the court transcripts to confirm the true version, not the line of revisionist history that Ken Shaw was giving to CPS, Family Court, and his family members.

Additionally, at the time of the false allegations, Ken Shaw was 17 months in arrears in child support - he had failed to make any payments since March of 2011. The amount owed was over $3000, more on that later.

At the onset, Ken Shaw repeatedly stated to: my neighbors, myself, Jon Massey, my attorney, Jon's attorney, the CPS caseworker, and even my youngest daughter's AFC that he did NOT believe the allegations against Jon, that Ruby was a "liar and a troublemaker" and had been even when he knew her while we were dating, and that she had "told lies about his sons".

He and his wife were reasonably cooperative, allowing my middle child and I to spend extended amounts of time with my youngest daughter, unsupervised at my house while he and his wife went shopping or ran errands. This continued for almost two weeks. And then his attorney, who had been on vacation, came back into town.

I have since gotten multiple reports from local attorneys, as well as several attorneys from other surrounding locales, that they have all had personal experiences in court, similar to what appears next, when they have opposed this particular attorney in a divorce/custody battle. Some of this attorney's former clients have even come forward to document similar behaviors.

My middle daughter was due to graduate from high school, a full year early with a college level math course already under her belt, and Ken Shaw agreed to bring my youngest daughter down to go to dinner and then the graduation, as he already had an appointment with his attorney. But on the day they were due to arrive, Ken informed us that they wouldn't arrive in time for us to go to dinner, and then eventually they arrived barely in time to accompany us to graduation. Afterwards they whisked my youngest daughter away immediately.

Additionally, Ken had taken the time that day to file for custody of my daughter, simply on the grounds that there was an order of protection against me.

Things went downhill from there.  We were going to court at least once a month at this point, and so there was opportunity to address issues fairly frequently. (And I have the transcripts of these proceedings to document what I am reporting here.)

At the next court date Ken and his attorney insisted that all visitations now needed to occur in Canada. They claimed that it was "too far to drive" and "unfair". So visitation now occurred in Canada.

Understandably, my middle daughter and I wanted to see my little girl as much as possible since she had lived continuously with us since birth, but Ken expressed that he didn't want to let us see her every weekend. And the next time we were in court, Ken and his attorney claimed that we were "stalking" him and my youngest daughter using her iPod touch that I had bought for her and let her take to his house - with his permission. (For those of you not familiar with the iPod touch, it can only connect to the internet using wi-fi, and there is no GPS chip in an iPod.) Now I was pleasantly surprised that even my youngest daughter's AFC realized that his claim was a little bit bizarre, to say the least.

So the judge ordered him to return the iPod to me - but for some reason he refused to do so, despite email requests and reminders at visitation, for another four months. When we got it back, there was documentation that someone in his household, other than my daughter, had been using it for a variety of things.

Additionally, at this point, the judge clarified that I was to get visitation with my youngest daughter every other weekend, since Ken had been less than cooperative in allowing us to see her. Other than that there was to be "a supervisor" (not necessarily Ken) specified in the paperwork, there were no other restrictions.

At this point in time, a matter of serious concern came to our attention - my youngest daughter reported that "they" were putting "stuff" on her thumbs to keep her from sucking her thumbs, and both Ken and his wife bragged that they would go into her bedroom at night and "pull her thumb out of her mouth" while she was sleeping. The conversation took place on two consecutive visits, and my middle daughter and I witnessed that my youngest daughter's thumbs were red and raw. My youngest daughter actually named the "stuff" as "Stop and Go", and we researched thumb sucking substances on the internet to get an idea of what was being used. (Sidebar: although we couldn't find "stop and go", we did learn that thumb sucking liquids contained either propylene glycol - antifreeze; acetone - nail polish remover; or capsaicin - extract from hot chili peppers...none of which should be used on a child.) Ignoring the issue that my daughter was obviously under stress from what had been done to her by CPS, use of force or chemicals is not appropriate on a child. So my daughter and I reported this to the CPS caseworker.

And at the next court date, Ken and his attorney claimed that we were trying to avoid his supervision and were "whispering" to my youngest daughter and telling her "inappropriate things". (Apparently in their eyes it was inappropriate to tell her that we loved her and missed her and that her best friends that she had known for three or more years had been asking about her.) We explained that Ken and his wife had been less than cooperative in scheduling visitations, and that they would sometimes cut the visits short because they "had shopping" or "had to visit Mary's mother".

The judge then specified that visitations were to occur for four hours every other weekend. So at least we got a little more specificity that we could hold them to. Meanwhile, during visits Ken and his wife would walk away, and do their own shopping - or on one occasion even got into an argument in a public location. Ken would repeatedly tell my youngest daughter that she was a "spoiled little girl" if we bought her things - books, dolls, puzzles, toys - somthing that we would do every other weekend when she lived with us. My youngest daughter reported that Ken and Mary had started telling her that she was NOT allowed to have us buy her anything. I had to explain that during visitation time it was her time to spend with me and that she was allowed to pick out items and I would tell her whether or not she could have them based on appropriateness or cost. (Yes, there were several times that I told her no based on those criteria.)

Additionally during this time period one of our attorney's approached my daughter's AFC to inform her about the thumb-sucking issue and to request Thanksgiving visitation.

So at the next court date was ANOTHER set of false allegations from Ken and his attorney - once again claims that we were trying to violate the supervised visitation guidelines. And again we presented to the judge that this wasn't the case and that we were getting the runaround on visitation being scheduled, and that we had attempted to schedule time at Thanksgiving and had been blocked by Ken and my youngest daughter's AFC (who had expressed Ken's opinion without ever speaking to my daughter).

The judge ordered that visitation be four hours every other weekend on Saturday, and at this point was really disgusted and kept stating that he wanted the parents to COOPERATE and jointly plan visitation with input from my youngest daughter. Additionally the judge addressed the issue of Christmas visitation and ordered that I be allowed six hours either on Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, or the day after Christmas in ADDITION TO the every other Saturday four hours, and for the attorneys to work it out.

Meanwhile, my attorney submitted a petition for custody of my youngest daughter that included details of Ken's behavior over the past years, including the issue of back child support and screenshots from his Facebook page that documented some serious concerns about his mental stability.

About now is also when the nasty emails from Ken began. Every time I attempted to work with him, he would send me an email that stated "I am in charge", "I am in control", "the judge put me in charge", and all sorts of abusive language.

And at the next court date, Ken and his attorney still had not responded to repeated requests from my attorney to schedule the Christmas visitation, so the judge ordered that I not only have visitation on December 22, but also for five hours on December 26. And AGAIN the judge ordered cooperation.

At a home visit with the CPS caseworker on December 21, we informed her that the placement of my youngest daughter outside of the US was a Hague Convention violation and that we would be taking action accordingly. In order to place outside the country, there had to be proof of "imminent danger" and mere 'neglect' did NOT qualify.

Then we had visitation on December 22, which turned into a mess at the instigation of Ken and Mary Shaw. Click here to read the specific details.

So after these inappropriate and physically aggressive incidents that were demonstrated by Ken and Mary Shaw, with accompanying false allegations, we were facing Christmas vacation on December 26th.

At the time, it appeared that that visit went reasonably well, even though Ken and Mary Shaw apparently had a different agenda and later made more false allegations. Click here to read specific details.

Things didn't get any better - on or around February 5, Ken and his attorney filed a response to my custody petition that claimed, among other things, that Ken had overpaid me over $3000 in child support. (This is laughable because I have the reports from BOTH NYS support collections and Canadian support collections that demonstrate his debt and lack of payment.) He also made a number of other false allegations, but NONE of them were about me physically or sexually abusing my youngest daughter.

Since every court date and visit with the CPS caseworker resulted in new claims that my middle daughter and I were being inappropriate at visitation, I started carrying a digital audio recorder that would record the entire length of the visit.

At the beginning of February there was a nasty incident in a movie theater at visitation. We went to a kid's movie on its opening weekend, and the theater was very crowded. We finally found five seats in a row, and I went in first followed by my youngest daughter. Ken and Mary pushed past my other daughter, and I asked if they could move down a seat so that she could sit on the other side of me (which would have still meant that Ken was sitting on one side of my youngest daughter). Ken immediately, in the middle of a theater full of parents and other children, began screaming about the judge's orders and how he "had to sit by Amelia". I once again calmly told him that I just wanted him to move down one seat so that my middle daughter could sit on the other side of me, and I gestured to give him a visual at the same time. Finally, after continuing to yell and make derogatory statements, he moved down.

Within days, he went to the Kingston Police Department and filed another false report. (Note: Kingston Police have been very cooperative in providing dates of reports filed with them. They have stated that they don't believe Ken and feel that my youngest daughter has been coached and coerced.)

The nasty, controlling emails continued as well as snarky comments at visitation. Meanwhile, the automated phone line for Canadian support collections was indicating an escalating level of actions that were being taken against Ken for his lack of payment of child support. The automated system also indicated that notices had been mailed to Ken about the actions that they were taking/going to take.

On March 2 Ken and Mary were late to visitation with no reason, and we learned later that they left Canada and entered the US (Homeland Security was very helpful at that point). Despite the fact that there were no restrictions on phone contact with my youngest daughter at that point, all our attempts to contact her by phone were unsuccessful for a period of two weeks.

On March 9 the Canadian support system phone line listed that Ken Shaw was being served with a Writ of Seizure and Sale for non-payment of his child support arrears.

My daughter and I were denied our court ordered visitation on March 16 because Ken and Mary Shaw wouldn't even respond to phone calls. Later, Ken made the false allegation via email that I had been making harassing phone calls to his parents during that time period. All of our phone records document that the only calls made to any Canadian number were to his and Mary's home and cell phones.

On March 20 Ken made a report to the therapist who was seeing my youngest daughter, and on March 21 Ken made another false report to Kingston Police claiming that I had sexually molested my youngest daughter. These reports were basically dismissed by both Kingston Police and Canadian CPS, we have documentation of this in a letter from Canadian CPS.

On April 2 Ken, after realizing that he was getting nowhere with Canadian authorities, filed a false report of sexual abuse with NYS CPS - and also included that I had sexually and physically abused Ruby and my middle daughter.

We were in court on April 4, and even the judge expressed disbelief, and didn't suspend my visitation. However he also didn't appoint a different supervisor for my protection. I hired a Canadian private investigator to monitor the visitation, and the only thing that she witnessed was inappropriate physical aggression and behaviors from Mary towards my youngest daughter.

We were back in court in May, and the fact that I'd had a PI there came up. The judge blew his top but then understood that in light of the false allegations it had been for my protection. At that time he ordered that I be allowed an adult in addition to my middle daughter to accompany me on visitation. Ken and Mary Shaw and his attorney sat right there, listened to it and acknowledeged the judge's orders. The judge also ordered that there were to be NO MORE electronic recordings, NO MORE private investigators, and there was to be cooperation.

At the very next visitation, I brought an adult neighbor who had known my youngest daughter since she was born. We were already at Denny's when Ken and Mary Shaw walked in. When they saw that I had someone with me in addtion to my daughter, they grabbed my youngest daughter by the wrist and dragged her out of the restaurant without saying a word. The neighbor and I followed them out and I reminded them that the judge had ordered that I could bring another person, and they began screaming that I was I liar and that another adult was not allowed, and they left.

They also sent a fax to CPS inquiring as to when the judge had ordered that I be allowed a second person, and demanding that they have complete control over who I was allowed to bring.

At the following visit, we brought a different adult, with even worse outcome. Not only did Ken start the visitation by placing a recording device in the middle of the table at the restaurant (in direct violation of the judge's orders), his behavior went far beyond what is acceptable or right. You can read specifics of it here.

The judge ordered that an independent psychologist be brought in to evaluate the situation with my youngest daughter, and the DSS attorney ignored the judge's orders to the point that the judge sanctioned him with a $1000 fine. Yes, we have the paperwork on that too.

The outside psychologist interviewed Ken and Mary Shaw, myself, did a psychological evaluation on my middle daughter (he had been given orders to do so by the CPS caseworker - without her attorney's knowledge or consent, and the caseworker later denied it), and my youngest daughter. He then tried to arrange to be at a visitation so that he could get an accurate picture of what was going on.

He called the CPS caseworker and got permission to have Ken and Mary Shaw leave while he supervised. (The court order only specifies a "supervisor", not Ken or any other individual.)On Thursday before a visitation he attempted to call Ken - and a man answered the phone, told him "wrong number", then hung up. A few minutes later Ken called back from the same number and admitted that it had been him. The psychologist made the arrangements that Ken and Mary would leave the visitation on Saturday (with the permission and prearrangement of the CPS caseworker), and Ken agreed to it.

On Saturday I showed up at Denny's and that is when the psychologist let me know that he would be observing the visitation. He explained the arrangements he had made above - it was fine by me since someone else would finally witness the interactions and dynamics going on, someone hired by the court.

When Ken and Mary Shaw arrived, they weren't surprised to see him, but when he asked them to leave, both Ken and Mary became belligerent. Ken refused to leave claiming that he was the only supervisor allowed. When he asked Mary to leave, she insisted that she would NOT leave unless the adult I had with me left also (exceedingly inappropriate as we had ridden together about an hour and a half and crossed an international boundary and he had no transportation of his own).

The psychologist continued to observe the visitation, and Ken and Mary Shaw showed their true colors throughout the whole time. When he appeared at a hearing to testify in February, the DSS attorney refused to admit the psychologist's report, even at the judge's order. My attorney finally admitted the report, over the objections of the DSS attorney, Ken Shaw's attorney, and the AFCs on the case.

Meanwhile, I had an expungement hearing scheduled in January, and the DSS attorney called Ken Shaw to testify. At that hearing Ken admitted that he had lied to the police about at least one incident, and he also claimed that not only did he witness the alleged incidents where I "sexually molested" my daughter and he did nothing, that my youngest daughter had also told him the night of December 26 that I had molested her that day (yet not a word was said to her AFC, to CPS, to DSS attorney, to her therapist, to Kingston Police, to her therapist, or to the court).

Within a few days of the expungement hearing I received a packet in the mail from a Canadian attorney. The packet contained a petition that Ken Shaw had filed in Ontario for custody of my youngest daughter. Filing for an action in a different court while it is already an open matter in a court is known as venue shopping, and illegal in both countries as signatories to the Hague Convention. Yet despite having the signed and notarized petition with us at the Family Court hearing in February, Ken Shaw lied and said that he never filed paperwork in Canada, then changed his story and claimed that he had only filed for child support.

By the time that the trial rolled around in July, the DSS attorney not only did not call Ken Shaw as a witness (despite the fact that he was reportedly an eyewitness to me abusing my youngest daughter and the primary source for her therapist and the CPS worker regarding the abuse), he and the judge effectively blocked the ability of my attorney to call him as a witness.

Par for the course. Connect the dots on this story for yourself. We have the paperwork documentation to support all of this.

PA -- December 26

A different friend who had worked as a security officer for a local military post volunteered to accompany us on December 26 visitation. He had known my youngest daughter since she was born, belonged to the same church as we did, and had family in Canada.

I had made arrangements to rent a "hospitality room" at a hotel in Canada that had an indoor water park. My youngest daughter loves the water and swimming, and it would give us an opportunity to exchange Christmas presents and relax. There was a restaurant at the hotel where we could eat lunch as part of the visit.

Ken claimed that my youngest daughter had "a fever" and "was sick" but agreed to meet us there - and informed us that we would be going to lunch at Denny's and a movie for the rest of the visit (no cooperation at all and no accommodations for spending time in a Christmas style).

When they arrived, Ken and his wife interrogated my friend and roughly asked my youngest daughter, "Do you know this guy?" - but she was able to name him and describe how she knew him.

We went to the hospitality room and opened Christmas presents - my youngest daughter chose to do that first (even though Ken and Mary had "conveniently" forgotten to bring the presents that they claimed my daughter had picked out for us), and then went to the water park.

The were some incidents of note while we were opening the presents:

• Every time Amelia opened a present Mary would demand to see it and make somewhat negative comments about it in a nasty tone of voice.
• We had bought a FurReal Puppy for Amelia since she had talked about missing her dogs at my house and had talked about how Mary wouldn't allow her to have a dog. Mary commented about being glad she could turn the toy off and take the batteries out.
• We bought four tickets to a Phineas and Ferb show that was scheduled for our visitation weekend and time slot in Kingston. Phineas and Ferb had been one of her favorite shows to watch at our house. Four tickets was enough for my two daughters, myself, and the "supervisor" that was ordered by the court. When Mary Shaw saw that there was no ticket for her, she said "we will see if you can go".

My daughter was excited with her presents and the water park, and had no sign of a fever or a cold. We had brought several of her swimsuits with us so that she wouldn't have to change into a wet suit if we went more than once, so we changed and headed out.

We arrived at the water park at about 12:40 and there was at least one other family and three lifeguards present when we got there. The lifeguards informed us that they would be closing at 1 for their lunch hour, but would then reopen.

My two daughters and I decided to go in the hot tub, and my youngest daughter brought her "swimming Barbie and swimming dog" that were a present from her oldest sister. It was my job to keep winding up the Barbie and the dog, either of which was a two handed operation. I would wind one and let it go and be winding the other one while my youngest daughter chased whichever one was swimming. When the bubbles would stop my daughters would go push the button to restart them. The other family was in and out of the hot tub with us.

Ken and Mary and my friend were seated about 20 feet away in plain sight. My friend was taking pictures of us - which include the other family and the toys. The lifeguards were stationed so that they could view all people in the park at all times.

At 1 we went back to the hospitality room, and as we passed the restaurant my youngest daughter asked if we could eat there. Ken tried to tell her no, but she insisted that she didn't want to go to Denny's and wanted to stay there and play with her Christmas presents and go to the water park again.

The restaurant didn't open for a while, so we went back to the hospitality room, changed into street clothes, and played games and read books for an hour. Then we went back to the water park again, and this time my middle daughter decided she didn't want to go in, but my friend thought that he might so he showed up a few minutes later after changing into his swimsuit.

This time there were several other families at the water park - parents, multiple kids, and at least one set of grandparents. My middle daughter sat by the water slide, my youngest daughter and I went in the hot tub for a few minutes, then went in the pool, then the splash park, then the hot tub, pool, splash park...and my friend sat directly next to the hot tubs for a few minutes until he decided that he wasn't going to go in the water after all.

I tried going in the pool once, but it was too cold for my taste so I would sit by Ken and Mary while my youngest daughter was there or in the splash park.

Finally, my friend and I were able to convince her to try the water slide and she went down it repeatedly while I sat next to my middle daughter and my friend. Finally we called it quits and convinced her to get out of the water and to go eat at the restaurant.

Once again we went back to the hospitality room and got dressed in street clothes, then went to eat. While there, Ken kept getting phone calls from someone. Later my friend reported that he got some calls at the pool also and kept telling the person that he "wouldn't be able to pick him up after all" because he and Mary "couldn't get out of visitation". My friend said it was obvious from the conversation that Ken and Mary had made other commitments for a time when they already knew that they were supposed to allow me visitation.

After eating in the restaurant, we went back to the hospitality room and played some more games. My youngest daughter wanted to go back to the water park but we explained that there wasn't enough time to change, go to the water park, and then change back again.

After the five hours was up, Ken and Mary took my youngest daughter and left. She gave all of us, my friend included, big hugs and said that she missed us and couldn't wait to see us again.

PA - December 22

A confidante of mine, who was also a mentor to my middle daughter, decided to meet us at the movie theater in Kingston with her two sons - 7 and 11. (She and her mother had also gone to the same church as us - the one in which my youngest daughter was baptized, and her sons went to school with my youngest daughter and had played with her on the playground). She owned property in Canada and had to meet with one of her contractors later in the day about projects on her property. The plan that we had worked out with Ken was to go see Elf, then have lunch at Denny's and then go Christmas shopping at the stores around the theater and restaurant. She and her sons had never seen Elf, and she also thought that my daughter and I might be exaggerating how bad the situation was with Ken.

She showed up a few minutes late, and texted Maura - who went out and led them back to where we were sitting. When the movie ended, I tried to take Amelia's hand to walk her out of the theater, and Ken grabbed her and pushed me away and said "the visit is over". I asked him what the problem was, and he said "the judge never said you could bring anyone". I told him that the judge didn't say I couldn't, and at that point my friend stepped in and said that she would talk to him.

Mary grabbed my youngest daughter and dragged her by the wrist to the other end of the lobby, and my middle daughter took my friend's two sons into the same vicinity. However, whenever my middle daughter tried to talk to and reassure her sister, Mary would grab her by the wrist and pull her away.

I tried to talk to my youngest daughter to reassure her, and Mary pulled her away from me. At that point I told Mary that she was NOT my daughter's mother and that she would NOT keep me from my daughter and I pulled my daughter forward and reassured her and gave her a hug and told her that her sister and I loved her very much. My friend's younger son came over and told her, "Don't worry, it's going to be okay," and gave her a hug also.

Mary then grabbed my youngest daughter and dragged her over to where my friend and Ken were talking and demanded to see ID. My friend showed them her driver's license at which point Mary said "Let's get out of here!" and they dragged my youngest daughter out. We followed trying to get Ken to calm down and continue the visitation but he put my youngest daughter in the car and left.

We tried to file a police report regarding the incident, but they wouldn't take one. Later we found out that Ken and Mary had gone to the police station and claimed that we had stated that we were going to kidnap my youngest daughter, and that my friend had claimed to be with Homeland Security. (Based on a false report Ken filed with Homeland Security, she even had a Homeland Security officer and a Coast Guard officer travel over three hours to interview her, and they found no credibility to Ken's claims at all.)

PA - The Prelude

An alienator does't just spring up out of the blue, and Ken Shaw didn't suddenly start in with me.

When I met him, Ken Shaw was separated and in the process of getting divorced. He had two sons who were approximately 10 and 12 when I met him.

Initially, he appeared simply frustrated, as many of us who end up in that situation can be. However, over time as we dated and he became more comfortable around me, his behavior shifted. By the end of the relationship you would think that Ken's ex-wife was the devil incarnate from the way he spoke about her.

I can specifically detail a number of things that he did, by his own admission and as I witnessed for myself, that fell into the four criteria of Parental Alienation:

Access and Contact Blocking:

As Ken Shaw and his ex-wife had joint shared custody of their sons, with a week on/week off living arrangement, this was more difficult for Ken to accomplish. This was even more so because at the onset of the separation/divorce she had obtained an order of protection, and he had to vacate the family home, had limited or no contact with his sons, and was living under the supervision of his parents. All of the above caused him to become retaliatory with a vengeance once he was able to see his sons again and had regained custody of the home (she chose to move out - more on that later).

However, Ken Shaw did manage to engage regularly in the following activities:

• The favorite word for Ken to use regarding his ex was "bitch". He would regularly call her that in front of the boys, and when referring to her. She was their "bitch" mother.
• Despite the supposedly "amicable" arrangements, Ken Shaw was not amicable. He would continuously insist that his sons wait until the exact time specified before their mother could pick them up, and if she were late bringing them back he would call and interrogate her.
• Whenever the boys called their mother on the phone, or she called them, Ken had a phone set up in another room on which he would listen to the entire conversation. He would also frequently physically disconnect the phone line, let the batteries go dead on the cordless phones, or keep the phone with him so that they could not speak with her.
• When Ken had to work or otherwise not be able to be with his sons while they were on their week with him, he would insist that they be at his parent's house, even and especially if they asked why they couldn't just go with their mother.
• Additionally, at any and all times that the boys were supposed to go to their mother's, Ken would turn it into an episode of trying to make the boys feel guilty about leaving. (Phrases like: "She doesn't love you as much as I do," and "You don't want to spend time with me," were a common refrain.)
• Additionally, Ken would not disclose the hockey practice schedules or other activity schedules to his ex-wife, and she had to secure copies for herself. He also would not keep her informed of changes, and used the participation of the boys in hockey as an opportunity to control access by keeping their equipment at his house so that he would have to transport them to and from practices and games, even if it was during the time they were scheduled to be with her.
• Ken would also schedule activities with the boys during times that they were supposed to be with their mother, so that if she did not allow them to participate with him she would look like the "bad parent".

In this criteria, Ken was very limited by what he was able to accomplish, but he did his best to interfere with the boys spending time with their mother.

Unfounded Abuse Allegations:

In order to get a better handle on the nature of unfounded allegations, you should read the linked article. Ken Shaw did a great job with the claims of psychological and emotional abuse inflicted by his ex-wife - although in reality he was the only one who was inflicting either.

• Ken Shaw's initial refrain, not only to his sons but also to anyone else who would listen, was that his ex-wife "didn't love" the boys, and his evidence was that she "ruined the marriage" and "cheated on him".
• He was also repeatedly reminding the boys that their mother "stole them from him" and "lied about him" in order to get an order of protection that kept him away.
• Ken escalated from there, telling his sons that their mother "only loves her boyfriend", that she put her boyfriend above them and everyone else.
• When one of his sons became less interested in playing hockey and tried to quit, Ken blamed it on his ex and her "lack of support and participation" and claimed that she was a bad parent for not supporting her son.
• When his other son repeatedly got into trouble at school, Ken claimed it was because his ex was neglecting him, or encouraging the behavior, and that she was a horrible parent.
• For every issue that went wrong in the household, Ken claimed that it was directly the result of his ex-wife's action (or inaction as need be).
• When I first saw the house, it was in a very sorry state (to put it mildly), and Ken claimed that it was entirely the fault of his ex-wife (poor housekeeper, hoarder, etc), and he repeatedly made the claim that she had mental health issues.

Deterioration in Relationship Since Separation:

A number of issues contributed to the deterioration in the in the relationship between the boys and their mother, the first and foremost being Ken Shaw's attempts to drive a wedge between them whenever possible. Additionally, by nature of them being boys and Ken being a male, he was able to capitalize upon the "she doesn't understand you" factor.

Additionally, towards the end of our relationship, Ken would repeatedly tell me that I had to act like a mother to the boys, and that they had to treat me as their mother, because their own mother wasn't competent. Ken was deliberately trying to use me as a replacement for his ex-wife, even though I repeatedly reminded him, and them, that the boys already had a mother and that Ken and I weren't even contemplating a formal relationship.

Intense Fear Reaction:

This aspect was one that Ken Shaw was able to keep hidden from me until close to the end of the relationship. The only person that I ever saw his sons afraid of was Ken. What he demonstrated at the end of the relationship was that he had a temper that could become out of control, and he would unleash it on even his own children.

Ken claimed that he had "anxiety" and would blame his temper outbursts on his anxiety. What I began to witness was that whenever his boys would do anything that he didn't like, he would have an "anxiety attack" and begin to scream at them. However, I also witnessed that they would flinch away from him when he was really worked up.

Then he began to target my children with the same behavior (the youngest was not born yet). He would begin to scream at me to "get them under control" and yell at them, and then go isolate himself for a while.

Things came to a head when I witnessed an extremely violent outburst between Ken and his older son. At this point I tried to terminate the relationship.

Ken's older son started complaining about his computer not working correctly and was blaming it on my children "doing something" on it. Ken went into his son's room, and sat down to try to figure out what was wrong. When he discovered that his son had installed some questionable software on the computer, he said something to his son. His son immediately put his feet on a table and shoved it full force into his father's back. Ken jumped up, threw his son face first on the bed and tried to hit him and choke him. I made him get off, then packed up and left.

Yes, I did report this to the Canadian version of CPS, but to the best of my knowledge they never did a thing about it. I also subsequently reported it to our local CPS unit on two occasions, and they also did nothing other than placing my youngest daughter in his custody 8 years later.

So long before the opportunity arose with my youngest daughter, Ken had already been practicing and refining his skills at Parental Alienation on his own two sons. It is no surprise that he was able to continue on with the same behaviors when given the wide open door by CPS and the court.

Here We Go Again!

Interesting coincidence - the article and my blog have gained a lot of traction over the weekend.

This has probably generated some consternation among those wishing to cover up their involvement, because we are back to some dirty tricks.

Episode 3:

Last night I did an interview on Parent Revolution with Tim Skomo, and an anonymous person showed up in the online chat.

Dear "anon4931" - let's see...first you post to the chat log of a radio interview under an "anon" ID, then you can't even tell a coherent story. 

If there was a "similar episode" in 2001 and the mother lost custody, then why were Ruby and her two sisters still living with the mother and in her full custody (and all three had been continuously in her custody since birth up until these false allegations by Ruby)?

And if the episode was "similar" and there was abuse that occurred, then how could the mother be doing PAS - wouldn't it be her job to keep the children away from the abuser from 2001?

Meanwhile, the true PAS - the father of her youngest child (and his wife) - even made multiple statements to CPS, attorneys, many other individuals, that he thought Ruby was a "liar" and making it all up. CPS even has it documented in their notes in several locations - as well as it being in his sworn testimony.

Nothing like being unable to even give coherent information. But you haven't been able to keep yourselves from lying to police, to judges, to each other. 

In fact, this man was such an obvious liar and so mentally unstable that the DSS attorney refused to allow him to be called at trial. After all, when someone can be proven to have lied to a judge (that is called perjury and a criminal offense), and has testified under oath to a different judge that he has lied to police, is he even a credible witness?

Maybe the transcripts and audio testimony of this man should be posted so that his friends and family are aware of just how out of control he is...after all, he has admitted to lying to them and involving them in his lies.

So yeah "anon4931", the mother would go on Steve Wilkos, as long as you go first. After all, the only one changing stories and lying is you.

Episode 2:

Although we have had well over $200,000 in legal expenses, apparently someone has attempted to register a complaint about our setting up a www.tfund.com/bottomfeedingsharks account to attempt to recoup some of our expenses. 

It would probably be whoever has MAC address 14:30:c6:e3:10:dc (oh, did I mention that your attempts to use a free wi-fi leaves a trail, so enjoy your Motorola device....) since the attempts to evade detection were so obvious.

This is SOP (standard operating procedure) for CPS in these matters. The quicker you can run a party out of money to present a defense, the more rapidly you can "win" a case. CPS never prevails on truth, they rely on the advocates for the truth running out of money and the ability to fight their case. See the entry on David and Goliath for details.

So for now, we have a PayPal donation button instead of being able to purchase a t-shirt to reflect your beliefs and support our cause. Once we get this squared away, we will be back up and running with t-shirts (and bumper stickers, and key chains, and whatever it takes to get the word out that the CPS and Family Court system is corrupt and needs to be reformed).

Addendum to Episode 2:

Really?

How well did that work for you?

Episode 1: I received an email from PayPal for a password change. This is one of my PayPal accounts that isn't linked to the email that I use for FB or Twitter, so to know the address it would take someone involved in the case. I called and learned that the password change attempt was done by telephone.

Dear mouth breathing sociopath : 

• PayPal logs phone numbers. 
• My account has been on higher levels of security since an individual suspected but not proven engaged in similar attacks about 5 years ago. 
• PayPal has obligingly provided me with the address for a subpoena.
• PayPal is in California and I reside in New York. I suspect that you are the idiot that lives in Canada. Even if you aren't, you have attempted identity theft and wire fraud that crosses state lines. That concerns the FBI and Homeland Security. If you are the idiot from Canada, that would also involve the CIA.
• "Burner" phones are still traceable.

Have a nice day.

We will stay updated. Let the fun and games begin!